5 Top Tips for Breaking the Ice on Interracial Dating Sites

It’s always a challenge to break the ice, particularly if you’re hoping for a little romantic attention online. Making a good first impression can be so important, though, particularly when dating sites have so many competing members. So, here are five top suggestions for how to break the ice on interracial dating sites…

1: Avoid mail bombing

Some sites allow you to send duplicate messages to multiple members. Whilst this might work for some, we tend to think that it could harm potential relations with other members. People want to be treated as individuals, so any generic message can seem impersonal. Instead of mail bombing members, pick out those you’re most interested in, say hello and talk about something you have in common! This will feel much more intimate, and we’re sure you’ll be more likely to receive a response.

2: Forums

If you’ve been sending lots of private messages but not getting much of a response, it might be worth checking out your dating site’s forums or chat rooms. These public spaces provide an opportunity to talk on a range of interesting topics (including the ins and outs of interracial dating), where you can meet lots of like-minded people at once. From there, you have something to talk about and a reason to chat more privately.

3: Video greetings

Certain interracial dating sites may allow you to upload a video greeting. You can record a message using your web cam and mic, so any visitor to your profile page will see and hear you. This can be an attention-grabber, and by the time your video has finished, they will hopefully be interested in reading more about you on your profile page. Videos also give members an idea about your personality, which could really help to endear you to them.

4: Be yourself, be bold… and a compliment doesn’t hurt

Understandably, some people feel sheepish about making the first move and sending a message to a member they like the look of. Our advice? Take a deep breath and do it anyway. If you don’t take the leap and get talking, it’s very unlikely that member will get in touch with you (just think of the odds, given how many members each site has). Be yourself, there’s no need to fabricate interests you don’t have (and lies are soon detected). Also, everyone likes to hear something nice about themselves, so it probably won’t hurt your chances to start off with a compliment. Even something seemingly innocuous, like “Hey I see you enjoy biking, me too – love the design on yours!” can really help your chances. This advice comes with a caveat: don’t be creepy, that’s probably not going to support your cause. Focussing on something other than ‘good looks’ is a good way to avoid creep-territory.

5: Matching and interests

It’s often a good idea to look for members based on more than their appearance. Finding someone based on a mutual interest or hobby is a great ice-breaker because you already have something in common. Rather than diving in with “Hey, wanna go on a date?” you can start a conversation about your favorite movies, games or sports. Your interracial dating website might also be able to match you with other members based on your interests or how compatible your personalities are.

The lowdown…

If you’re not quite sure what to say to someone on an interracial dating website, don’t panic! Finding a common interest is a great way to start, and paying them a compliment can help to smooth the process. If you’re struggling in private messages, why not try the site’s forums or community pages? You could even upload a video to welcome members to your profile page. Our general secret for breaking the ice is to chat about something which interests you both, and to see where things go from there…